I’m sure you’ve heard the quote, “Motherhood, the hardest job you’ll ever do!”
My mind has pondered on this quote for the past five years, which I’ve heard many times, and at one point; believing it. Thinking to myself, “you better believe it’s the hardest job I’ve had!” It’s exhausting, and at times, it drains every ounce of me. It’s 24/7 and I don’t get breaks. But, what if we started looking at motherhood differently?
Not like it’s a job, but what you’re meant to do! To stop looking at the tasks of motherhood, checking off your daily list, and keeping up with the strenuous schedule. There is no time card to clock in and out. You won’t be running late or too early. You don’t get lunch breaks and most of the time you will be running to the bathroom barely making it (and of course, always with a little helper by your side). You don’t have a boss to tell you what you’re doing wrong or any coworkers to keep you sane day in and day out. You won’t have a manual by your side helping you step by step (although there are many great books to help guide you through motherhood), but when they lay that precious soul in your arms…you will know it all feels right.
You may not know how to do it perfectly (there is no perfection in motherhood), you may question yourself every day (trust me, that is normal), but you will know in your heart that you will do what’s best for that little life before your eyes! You will figure it out along the way. Just take it one day at a time. You will make mistakes, but you won’t get FIRED.
You will mother differently than your best friend or the neighbor next door that seems to have it all together. Stop questioning yourself and stop letting others question you as well. Stop buying hundreds of parenting books and stressing yourself out trying to find every answer. Stop comparing yourself to societal standards/expectations. At the end of the day, what matters are the expectations you set for yourself.
Dig deep. Follow your heart. Be gentle with your children, and especially with yourself! Listen to your soul, letting it guide you. Stop living task to task! Take that spontaneous trip to the park. Put down the wash and play with your child for twenty minutes. Put on music and dance through the house. It’s okay to be vulnerable with your child. It’s okay to say sorry and to let them see that you also have bad days. All they want is you; your time and your love. They want acceptance and guidance. Simply be yourself and strive to learn from the mistakes you made the day before. Motherhood is what you’re meant to do!
Yes, motherhood is hard. It’s CRAZY hard, but motherhood is not your JOB. As Jennie Finch once said, “You don’t take a class; you’re thrown into motherhood and learn from experience.” And guess what? You’re amazing at it! It’s within you! Let it SHINE!